Jenny Garth, Newly Divorced and Loving It: How to Move On After A Relationship Ends

Posted on November 1, 2012 by admin

Jenny Garth Looks Good After DivorceIt hasn’t been that long since 90210 alum Jenny Garth split from her hanger-on husband of 11 years Peter Facinelli. Yet already she’s been seen out and about, having fun and dating different people. She has been spotted with photographer Noah Abrams and quite a few others. So we have to ask, what’s the secret? Most people don’t do very well after a divorce, male or female, especially when the marriage lasted for so long. Eleven years is a long time to spend with someone. Then, to split it off and possibly cut contact with that person requires you to almost find yourself again. So how did Jenny bounce back so quickly? She worked on herself first.

Work On Yourself and Others Will Follow

Jenny and Peter broke up around August and it was only in September that she was spotted in Vegas by the pool having the time of her life. She had obviously been working out and she looked healthy. It’s likely that she put her focus into herself during those days when she was trying to discover who she was again.

Being paired up with someone for any length of time changes you, no matter how strong willed you are. You take on aspects of the other person and they take on aspects of you. When you split, it takes time to get ‘you’ back. That is why it pays to improve yourself any way you can.

Take on a new exercise program, learn a new language, engage in a new hobby, take a class, learn a martial art, start learning how to cook; do anything that will get your mind off of your former lover.

That’s what Jenny did. She spent time on herself and it shows. She’s always been slim, sure, but even if you are overweight or you have some other insecurity, work on yourself and you’ll see that dates will soon follow.

Will Jenny find someone else? Probably. She’s a smart, beautiful woman and will likely land on her feet. And to anyone facing a breakup situation, hang in there and work on yourself first. If you turn your focus inward, start working on your appearance, your hobbies and your interests and forget about relationships for the moment, you will soon see that people will line up wanting to date you.

 

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Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel Wed – Didn’t Invite Joey Fatone or Lance Bass – When Your Significant Other Doesn’t Like Your Friends?

Posted on October 24, 2012 by admin

Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel Wed - Where are Lance and Joey?Former N’Sync band member Justin Timberlake and actress Jessica Biel wed in Italy this past weekend and missing from the festivities were Joey Fatone and Lance Bass, Timberlake’s former N’Sync crooners. A rumor is swirling that it is because Jessica Biel doesn’t like Joey or Lance. Some reports are coming in that Justin hates Lance and didn’t invite Joey because the two had a falling out years ago. Yet it seems to be that Jessica may have had a hand in this. What if Jessica told Justin not to invite his former band mates? Would you do the same for your significant other? Would you purposely defriend a friend just to make the love of your life happy? Let’s look into that, shall we?

Friends and Lovers

When we get into a relationship, our friends often fall by the wayside. It’s understandable why it happens. We spend so much time with our lover that our friends become second priority. Maybe your friends are still single or maybe they get into relationships themselves, but rarely do our friendships remain as they were when we get into a new relationship. That’s just the way things happen in life.

When Justin left N’Sync, it’s likely that he stopped talking to those guys as much. Then, as Jessica entered his life, he probably saw them even less. So it can be assumed that these five guys, the guys that formerly made up one of the biggest pop sensations ever to grace the stage, probably aren’t as close as they once were.

Still, don’t they deserve an invite to your grand Italian wedding?

Snubbing Friends for Lovers

It’s one thing to let a friendship fall by the wayside, but it’s quite another to snub a friend altogether for a lover. We can’t be sure if Jessica was the one behind Joey and Lance not showing up or not being invited to the wedding. We can only speculate. Still, we can be sure that if Justin did fail to invite his former band mates and friends, that’s a pretty shallow thing to do. It’s also not good to get rid of friends just because your lover says so. If Jessica is trying to change Justin so much that she’s controlling who he hangs out with, this relationship is probably doomed to fail.

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Kanye West Blows Up At Paparazzi Over Comments About Kim’s Ex – When Jealousy in a Relationship Gets Out of Hand

Posted on October 18, 2012 by admin

Kanye West Jealous Outburst Over Kim Kardashian's ExKanye West was out with Kim Kardashian recently when they ran into paparazzi (big surprise). Apparently, Reggie Bush, Kim’s ex-boyfriend, was eating nearby with his main squeeze. One pap asked Kanye what he thought of Kim’s ex being so close to their outing and he flipped out. He actually went after the pap in question, while Kim watched the whole scene smiling at her white knight. What’s wrong with this scene? For one, Kanye needs to calm down. A grown man should never get that jealous, especially when nothing even happened. Second, instead of smiling Kim may want to wise up as that jealousy could wreak havoc on their relationship later on.

Jealousy And Relationships

Jealousy is a normal human emotion and it’s normal for either person in a relationship to feel jealous now and again. But when jealousy turns to violence, especially when you’re out of high school, it should send a huge red flag to the other person.

Kim is just sitting there smiling as her big tough man goes after some defenseless cameraperson. The camera person was a woman, too. I know, they don’t have the most glamorous job and they are invading privacy in most cases, but Kanye was way out of line.

He should have just walked on past because he’s the bigger person and because he’s an adult. Instead, he flipped out like a child and Kim seemed to revel in it.
If Kim were smart, she’d see this as a sign that there could be trouble later on. Imagine how Kanye would have reacted if she’d actually talked to Reggie Bush that night. Or what if, god forbid, Reggie touched her arm or what if they kissed on the cheek as the reminisced old times? Would Kanye have shanked Reggie right there on the sidewalk? If he went after a paparazzo over a question, what would he do in a real jealousy situation?

Kim shouldn’t be encouraging this behavior. If you are with someone over the age of 20 and they are getting in fights or confrontations over mere questions, that should be a sign that your significant other needs to grow up. If you’re the jealous one, you might want to learn how to control that emotion so that it serves you and makes you better, but don’t let it sabotage your relationship.

Jealousy can get out of hand if you let it. But when you feel the jealousy bug take hold, you should take a deep breath, assess the situation and handle it like an adult, without violence if possible.

Have you ever experienced jealousy in your relationship? How did it play out? Were there red flags beforehand that you should have noticed? Tell your story in the comments section below.

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Russell Brand Picks Up Hottie On The Street – Do You Have The Guts To Walk Up To A Stranger?

Posted on October 11, 2012 by admin

Russell Brand picking up hottieInternational comedian and movie star Russell Brand has been seen with some of the most beautiful women in LA, including Katy Perry. Now we get to see how he does it all up close and personal. Russell was recently spotted in L.A. picking up a hot young lady jogger on a street corner. It even looks like they exchanged numbers. Now here’s a guy that can get any girl and he just walks up to strange hotties and tries to bag them, too. How does this guy get all this confidence? Would you have the guts to just walk up to someone on a street corner, strike up a conversation and get their number? If you can, you’ll a big leg up in the dating game.

Confidence Is Key

It’s apparent that Russell is oozing with confidence. And why wouldn’t he be confident? He’s got a successful movie career that is still taking off. He’s got lots of money, he’s successful and he has a lot going for him. He also has comedy on his side, which is a powerful aphrodisiac.

But you don’t need to be a movie star or a popular comedian to have confidence, even uber confidence like Cassanova Brand over here. It could be you walking up to that woman on the street corner as she jogs past. Or maybe you’re a woman and you want to have the confidence to walk up to a man you like. Having confidence is all about believing in yourself and not being afraid to take chances.

So what if the person says no. There are other fish in the sea. That’s undoubtedly what Brand is thinking. And just think, the more ‘no’s you get, the closer you are to getting a yes. The dating game is a numbers game, but it’s also about having lots of confidence. Believe in yourself, don’t put so much pressure on yourself to succeed and just go for it.

If you are on the dating scene and you’ve never walked up to an attractive stranger to get their number, you should try it. It’s important to break your comfort zones so that you are always improving as a person. It’s going to seem very strange at first, but push through. Fake having confidence if you have to. In the end, you’ll have learned a valuable lesson about yourself and, if things go right, you just might get a phone number.

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Paris Hilton’s Boyfriend Involved In Jealous Fight At Night Club

Posted on October 4, 2012 by admin

Paris Hilton's Boyfriend in Fight At NightclubLast weekend, Paris Hilton’s boyfriend, model River Viiperi, was involved in an altercation at the Encore Hotel in LA. Apparently, Paris and River were in the nightclub early Sunday morning when Paris got frisky and started making out with another hot young club going female. The girl Paris kissed was there with her boyfriend and apparently River had a problem with this young chap. The two end up fighting, River gets cited and released but not before he did extensive damage to the other guy’s face. Ah, what a mess, but it does highlight a problem that many couples face in a relationship: Jealousy.

It’s obvious that the girl’s boyfriend said something or acted in a way that suggested that he was going to have a threesome with the two girls. This of course would make anyone angry and it’s understandable that Viiperi was upset. But you can’t just go slugging people when the mood strikes you, no pun intended.

If you feel jealousy rearing its ugly head, it’s much better to talk about it. What Viiperi should have done is taken Paris aside and explained to her that he felt uncomfortable with the situation and that he wishes the two of them would leave or at least stop the uncomfortable behavior.

Of course, they were in a nightclub and alcohol (and possibly other intoxicants) were likely involved, so it’s easy to see why Viiperi didn’t keep such a clear head. But maybe we can all learn from his mistakes.

If you are ever with your significant other and you are put in a situation that you don’t quite agree with, make your concerns known. Your special someone doesn’t have to make out with someone else for you to get jealous. It may be the way they look at someone, it may be a few words they say or it could be a way they act. Jealousy is a very human emotion and it’s natural to feel it every now and again, but it shouldn’t consume you.

If you are consumed with jealousy, you may have low self-esteem or you may be with the wrong person. While a little bit of jealousy is ok and even healthy, no relationship should have more than its fair share.

If you feel jealous, talk it out. Don’t fight about it and certainly don’t slug it out in a nightclub in front of everyone, including the police. Communication is always key in any relationship and if Paris and her new boyfriend would have remembered that, they may not have found themselves in such an embarrassing situation.

Though, it seems that the couple is fine. As TMZ reports, the couple was seen walking hand in hand, with Paris saying that the two were fine and that her boyfriend is, “The best.”

He’s certainly not the best at communication, is he? What do you think, readers? Have you ever been in a situation with your date or significant other that made you jealous? How did you handle it?

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Charlize Theron Is Dating Who?? Do Looks Really Matter?

Posted on September 27, 2012 by admin

Charlize Theron Dating Eric StonestreetEarlier this month it came out that Charlize Theron, superstar, model and easily one of the most beautiful women in the world, was now dating Eric Stonestreet. Who is that, you might ask? You might know him from Modern Family. He’s the rotund gentleman that plays the effeminate Cameron Tucker on that show. Most people on the Internet were shocked. They couldn’t believe that Charlize, this goddess of a woman, would choose to date someone so…not in her league. Maybe Charlize isn’t as shallow as everyone makes her out to be. Maybe looks don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

Maybe Charlize is just as smart as everyone makes her out to be. It could be that looks don’t matter so much to Charlize and that she is looking for someone intelligent, stable and someone who can make her laugh her butt off at the drop of a hat.

Do Looks Matter?

If you ask most people whether or not looks matter in a relationship, you’ll probably get a resounding ‘yes’ from most people. It’s natural to think that, biologically, we are attracted to the most viable mate, the one that will pass the best genetic materials down to our offspring. So we are naturally attracted to people who are good looking, who have good symmetry and who convey that they have the best genes available.

So what happens when you find someone who provides everything else you’re looking for, only they’re not the best looking person on the planet? Do you still date them? While Eric may not seem to be in Charlize’s league by society’s standards, he may provide her with everything else she’s looking for. Just because he’s a little heavy and just because he doesn’t have leading man looks doesn’t mean that he doesn’t fulfill her needs in other ways.

The lesson here is that maybe it’s best to look past the skin when looking for someone to date. You never know what you might find in that person who looks a little average, but who might pack quite a punch in the intelligence and other departments. Look beyond skin deep like Charlize and you may find that one person you’ve been searching for. Sometimes in our search for the perfect mate with the perfect looks, we overlook the one who might be perfect for us in all other ways.

Is Charlize dating Eric Stonestreet? Earlier this week, Eric tweeted that he wishes people would stop tweeting the rumor. He made a joke about it, but that’s what it does. He’s a funny guy. Is he being serious? Is there no relationship? Or is he trying to offset the media attention? Either way, it’s fun to think that Eric has a chance with Charlize. If he has a chance, doesn’t that mean we all do?

What do you think about looks and relationships? Do they matter or could you see yourself dating someone who doesn’t quite live up to your dating standards? We’d love to hear what you think.

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The Shocking Way Arnold Schwarzenegger Reacted To Maria Shriver’s Demand For Divorce

Posted on September 19, 2012 by admin

Arnold Schwarzenegger's Reaction To Maria ShriverArnold Schwarzenegger cheated on his wife Maria Shriver years ago with his maid and even fathered an illegitimate child with the El Salvadorian nanny. She only recently found out and they separated. Now, the truth is coming out as to what really happened when Maria found out about Arnold’s infidelity. According to media sources, Arnold told Maria to move out of the house and to get a hotel. He supposedly told friends that he thought things would work out between Maria and him, but if they didn’t he would get in a ’20 year old honey’.

This sounds like one of those classic cases of relationship strife and how emotions can quickly bubble out of control. When a relationship begins, the couple usually can’t keep their hands off of each other. They want to spend every waking minute together and soon they’re living together. Before they know it, they’re married and happy, or so they think.

When the marriage hits strife, such as one spouse cheating, much like Arnold did, it can cause both people to say and do things they normally wouldn’t do. And they often want to cause pain to the other person, whether that pain is physical or emotional. Hopefully it’s more of the latter.

The point is, when a relationship hits rocky terrain, that should be the time when both parties are ready to sit down and communicate. If Arnold hadn’t let his pride get in the way, he could have set Maria down and told her how sorry he was. They could have talked it out and then maybe they could have rekindled the relationship.

It’s sad when the two people that comprise the couple turn on one another. Arnold telling Maria to get out of the house when he was the one who cheated sounds like someone on a power trip, which isn’t surprising given that Arnold was the Governor of California, major action star and multi-time Mr. Universe, but he acted like most people act in this type of situation. When cornered, we often act out. In a relationship argument, when we act out it’s usually against the one we supposedly know and love.

The lesson here is not to overreact when you’re arguing with your significant other, especially if you love that person. Instead, sit down and have a nice long chat. You may be able to work everything out and you’ll soon see that talking openly about the situation is much better than losing your head.

It’s too bad Arnold didn’t read this before this whole thing went down. He might have saved his marriage and his pride would still be in-tact.

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Robert Pattinson Moving Back To The UK Following Kristen Stewart’s Tryst With Snow White Director

Posted on September 17, 2012 by admin

Robert Pattinson moving back to UK following Kristen Stewart's infidelity. In case you’ve been living in a media blackout recently, you likely know about the tryst between Kristen Stewart and her ‘Snow White’ director Rupert Sanders. Stewart, who starred in Snow White alongside superstar Charlize Theron, was living at the time with her Twighlight co-star Robert Pattinson. Now, it’s coming out that Pattinson has moved out of their love nest and is now planning to move back to the UK where he’s lived all his life. Oh, Kristen, how could you? Regardless of how these two broke up, it’s never easy separating from someone, especially if you’re the one whose heart’s been broken. A breakup is never easy and it appears that Kristen isn’t taking things quite so well.

Symptoms Of A BreakUp

Kristen has received public scrutiny on a massive scale for her infidelity and it’s beginning to show. She looks very thin and, though she’s usually pale, she looks even more so now. It’s obvious that she feels horrible for her little indiscretion, but she’s showing the classic symptoms of a heartbreak breakup.

She’s not eating, probably not sleeping, she may be turning to alcohol or other drugs. This isn’t a bash on Kristen, it’s just to highlight the mental breakdown and the change we all go through when we split with someone.

Is Pattinson feeling these same emotions? That’d be a good bet. He was the one who was cheated on, he’s the one that was forced to move out of the home and now he’s talking about moving home so that he can be closer to his family. He is also showing the classic signs. What heals these breaking up symptoms? Only time. Time and a good support system.

That’s likely why Pattinson wants to move back to the UK. He has people there that care for him, people who will help him through his turmoil. Hopefully Kristen has that same support system.

What can we all take away from this? Breaking up is never easy to do. Cheating is wrong but sometimes it happens. The best we can do is live and learn, forgive and forget and try to do better next time. And most importantly, we need to allow time to heal all wounds while leaning on our support system through it all.

Though breaking up is hard, it usually makes us a better person and we’re usually less likely to make those same relationship mistakes in the future.

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Chad Ochocinco Johnson Files For Divorce From Evelyn Lozada

Posted on September 17, 2012 by admin

Chad "Ochocinco" Johnson finally files for divorce from Evelyn JohnsonChad “Ochocinco” Johnson has officially filed for divorce from estranged wife, Evelyn Lozada. According to Johnson, the marriage is “irretrievably broken”, this according to TMZ. The divorce is right on the heels of an incident that happened last month. According to reports, Johnson head butted his wife during an argument where she accused him of having an affair. Apparently she found a receipt for a box of condoms. The head butt caused a three inch gash on Lozada’s forehead and now she says she’s “ecstatic” that the marriage is over. The marriage lasted only a few weeks and was filmed on July 4th as part of a reality show that has since been canceled.

This story begs an important question: Can people get married and not cheat? There seems to be an increase in cheating amongst married men and women. With sites like Ashley Madison that promise to help you find an affair and lots of other similar dating sites, not to mention films like Hall Pass that literally give a pass to cheating, have extramarital affairs gone mainstream?

Possibly, but that’s not to say that everyone is cheating. If you are truly meant for someone and you love that person with all of your heart, you’re not going to cheat. However, in any relationship, people can be made to feel unappreciated or unloved and things can happen. Co-workers can seem enticing, friends can become friends with benefits and what ends up happening is the married person looks to fill their heart by jumping into bed with another. That is no way to treat a spouse and it’s no way to respect yourself.

Cheating only hurts your partner. Johnson is a famous football player and likely had many women vying for his attention. If he wanted to go out and have extra marital affairs, most people would ask why he got married in the first place.

It’s not easy to determine why people cheat. They do it for different reasons. If you are going to cheat on someone, it’s far better to break up with them first rather than risk hurting them. Cheating can not only cause a broken heart, but it can also spread disease. Why would you do that to someone you love?

The bottom line is that Johnson and Lozada are much better off apart and maybe this little altercation saved the woman a lot of grief in the long run. If Johnson was cheating after only a few weeks of marriage, what was he going to do years down the line when the honeymoon phase was over? We can only guess.

The lesson here, though, is that if you are thinking of cheating on your significant other, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, it’s much better to discuss it with your partner and maybe agree to part ways before anyone gets hurt. An affair may feel good for a little while, but it will usually only bring pain in the end. For Lozada, she got a three inch gash on her forehead. If the relationship and cheating had continued, who knows how much more she would have suffered.

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Blake Lively And Ryan Reynolds Elope In Secret Wedding

Posted on September 13, 2012 by admin

Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds ElopeIt is official: Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds are now married. The couple eloped in a secret wedding in South Carolina this past Sunday and it seems that a baby may be in the cards fairly soon. The thing is, the couple has only been dating a year. Of course reader comments scream that the couple won’t last, that they don’t know each other that well and, since this is Reynolds’s second marriage, people are saying that Ryan marries too quickly. The public outcry may be unfounded, however, as the couple seems incredibly happy and they’re already talking about having thirty children!

Many people think that you need to be together forever before you realize that the person you’re with is marriage material. Even more people think that quick marriage relationships, such as the one shared by Lively and Reynolds are doomed for failure because the two people just don’t know each other well enough.

Who is to say that the couple doesn’t know each other? Isn’t it possible that the two met and fell instantly in love? Isn’t it also possible that the two found that they share the same philosophies on life, on marriage and on child bearing and rearing? If that’s the case, then why shouldn’t they get married? If the two of them can agree on everything and are madly in love, then it sounds like the two of them just might enjoy a long and love-filled life together.

Looking For Love And Marriage?

The lesson here is that if you are looking for love and you put yourself out there, you increase your chances of finding someone who shares your same passion and outlooks on life. You may have to date several people and you may have to live through long relationships until you find the one, but that person is out there if you keep looking.
Ryan and Blake have dated other people and at the time, they may have felt that they found who they were looking for. It wasn’t until the two met and started dating that they realized that they were indeed meant for each other.

If you’re looking for marriage material, it’s out there, just keep looking. If you have hope and you hold out until you find the one that you feel you can share your life with, you will find that person before long. Blake and Ryan did. Let’s hope they have a long and fulfilling marriage and here’s hoping that they indeed have thirty children. Lord knows the world needs more happy marriages. We’re lucky to have such great role models for the traditional family institution.

Congratulations Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds. May your union last a lifetime.

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