Top 10 Dating Resolutions for 2012
By Ronnie Ann Ryan – The Dating Coach www.nevertoolate.biz/gift
1. I will make looking for love a priority.
I know you are busy. My dating coaching clients tell me all the time how hard it is to make time for dating. But my question to them is, “If you don’t have time to date, how will you have time for a relationship?” finding love is like any other goal. You’ll need to invest time and money to succeed. Make finding love a priority to improve your odds of connecting with the right one for you.
2. I will give more types of people a chance.
One of the biggest challenges my clients face is seeking a specific type of person. I encourage them to cast a wider net so they can date a variety of people. Often, when you have a type, that person ahs the good things you like along with all the characteristics that cause your relationships to end. Think back to all the people you have dated who were exactly your type…where are they now? Chances are, if you get past your type, you’ll find a better partner.
3. I won’t narrow my options too quickly.
You meet someone and hit it off right away. Hoorah! But don’t’ stop dating others just yet. You need to see how things work out. People can disappear, change their minds or a number of other things can happen leaving you back at square one. Or you might find yourself dating someone who seemed perfect at first, but turns out not to be what you thought. Yet, now you’re invested, so you decide to stick it out. Neither option is good. Don’t stop dating others until you get to the exclusivity stage and feel the person has true, long-term potential.
4. I will slow down.
There’s absolutely no hurry. Yet, many times people dive into a relationship. Take your time getting to know someone. Don’t over communicate from the start with too many texts, emails, or calls. Leave something to talk about for future dates. Give the person some space to let the anticipation of seeing you build. This will also keep you from getting heartbroken if things don’t work out.
5. I will take the pressure off.
If you go out thinking, “Tonight’s the night!” you could be in for disappointment. Why not go out with the attitude that you are going to meet new people and take the pressure off. When you’re more relaxed, you are more attractive. Mingling and being seen are important, but there is such a thing as trying too hard. Just enjoy meeting new people and you’ll have a lot more fun with the process.
6. I will be friendly because I never know who will connect me to “the one”.
You never know who will be the connecting link to the love of your life. I met my husband’s sister first at a bar. We were chatting and laughing, having fun getting to know each other. Within 30-minutes she asked me if I was seeing anyone – she thought her brother would like me. We’ve been married for 11 years so she was right! Be friendly to everyone – because you never know who they know that might be right for you.
7. I will look for what IS GOOD in people.
It’s so easy to find fault with your dates. The challenge I ask of my dating coaching clients is for them to find what IS GOOD about their dates. When you start to notice the good in people, you will be more open, easier to be with, more fun and far more approachable and attractive to the opposite sex. There is a lot of good in the single people out there, even if that person isn’t right for you. Shift your perspective and discover how it lightens your spirit and gives you a more positive attitude.
8. I will not “bash” the other gender for fun with friends.
I work with my dating coaching clients to help them understand this universal principle. When you talk badly about the opposite sex, you send out negative vibes. Oh yes, men and women can tell when you have a negative attitude about them as a group. It’s like a gray cloud that hangs over your head making you far less attractive. I know this can be fun with friends, but I advise you to stop doing it. You’ll thank me when you notice how many more positive interactions you have with people.
9. I will work to build my confidence.
What is the number one personality characteristic my dating coaching clients, (both men and women) look for in a partner? Confidence! Yes, confidence is sexy to both genders. This year, find ways to build your confidence and self-esteem. Take good care of yourself, get a makeover, buy some new clothing, hire a personal trainer, or maybe take a confidence-building workshop. Do what you need to do to feel good about yourself because you will automatically become more attractive as a result, without even trying.
10. I will hire a dating coach!
I’ve been a dating coach for 10 years now (this month is my official anniversary) and my heart goes out to singles who are struggling, frustrated, angry, confused or in despair. Ask for help! There are so many ways to work with me from private one-on-one coaching, to group coaching and telecourses, to email coaching. There is a way to get the help you need. Promise to stop the struggle and ask an expert (whether it’s me or someone else) to help you figure out what might be getting in the way of realizing your dream – finding the love you want and deserve. Make 2012 your year to find love!
Ronnie Ann Ryan has been a professional Dating Coach for 10 years. She is also a speaker, workshop leader and author of MANifesting Mr. Right. Ronnie’s light-hearted, compassionate style and savvy insights have helped thousands of women transform their love lives to find the amazing man they dreamed of.