Is your date’s interest for you waning? Want to find out? If you keep your eye out for certain things, you can usually tell exactly what your date is thinking. No, you’re not going to learn any Jedi mind tricks or hypnotism. Instead, you’re going to watch your date’s body language. If you notice any of the following behaviors, you may want to consider dating someone else.
1. The Wandering Eye
No matter where you’re at with your date, he or she can’t stop looking at all the fresh meat. While the occasional glance is normal and quite natural, if your date doesn’t have the courtesy to look you in the eye and refrain from staring down all the local eye candy, then your date obviously doesn’t respect you. It’s time to move on.
2. The Cover Up
If your date suddenly wears baseball caps that are too low or their hair is always in front of their face, it could be that they don’t want to be seen in public with you. They’re either married or they’re simply embarrassed to be associated with you in public. Whatever the reason, when the person is covering up, it’s never a good sign.
3. No Manners
It’s one thing if your date is born into a family where manners took second fiddle to all other lessons, but if the person has complete disregard for your presence by chewing with their mouth open, letting the door hit you on your way in, eating before your meal arrives, or whatever else they happen to be doing that peeves you off, you might want to either say something or just say goodnight. If the person has little care for your comfort level or your feelings, then you should definitely find someone else.
4. Leaning Back At The Table
If the person leans back while you’re talking and gives little regard for what you’re saying, you might want to find someone else to talk to. A person who is truly into you and who truly cares about what you have to say will lean in and at least act interested.
5. Sighing A Lot
If you are completely wearing the person out, they might sigh constantly. If you hear the person sighing whenever you say certain things or behave certain ways, you might want to tell them to hit the skids.
6. Responding To Fewer Messages Less Often
Some people don’t respond to every text. You just have to accept that fact. If the messages come far and few between and they’re getting less and less frequent, you might want to take that as a sign that your partner’s interest in you is going south.
7. No Friends, No Family, No Way!
If you have been dating this person for a while and you still haven’t met their friends, family or even the person they’re always talking about when they shop at the local market, that might be another sign that the person just isn’t into you. If the person was into you, they’d want to show you off to everyone they knew, including strangers they come upon on a daily basis.
8. Out Of The Way Spots
If the person wants to continuously hit spots that are out of town, it means one of two things. Either the person is married and is trying to avoid running into el esposo, or they just don’t want to be seen with you in case they run into someone they know. The latter could also mean tons of things: either they’re keeping their options open, they’re embarrassed to be out with you or anything else. Still, take far and away places as a sign that things may not be on the up-and-up.
9. Excuses, Excuses
If the person suddenly comes up with excuse after another why they can’t see you, take that as another sign. A person who likes you and is interested in you will make time to see you. Of course some people are just busy and life does tend to get in the way of what we want a whole lot, but you should be able to tell the difference between happenstance and a rebuffing. Open your eyes and the person’s motives should be clear.
10. The Dreaded Head Turn
You go to kiss the person and, what happened? They turned their head? If the person won’t return your kiss or if you’ve been seeing each other for some time and you’ve already said the L word and you’ve said that and the person didn’t repeat it back, you may be headed for trouble. Of course, the person could be playing hard to get or they might mean that they love you without saying it, but again look for consistency. If the person is ALWAYS turning their head or ALWAYS not responding to your acts of affection, it means the person doesn’t like you as much as you might think.
There are exceptions to every rule, but if you see one or more of the above characteristics in your date, you might want to rethink your future relationship.
Do you have any you’d like to add to the list? Ever been with a person whose interest waned on you? Let us hear your story. You might help a poor dater avoid a horrible situation with someone who’s just not that into them.