BDD: What does it take to be coach?
Coaching is about guiding another person in the area that you are an expert in.
BDD: How can I tell if I need a coach?
When a person does the same behavior over and over again and it does not get the results intended then that is the time to change the behavior and seeking out a coach in that field can help to guide a person in a different behavior pattern with positive results.
BDD: How do you help your clients, what’s unique about your approach?
As a sex coach, I am non-judgmental and I have helped thousands of people succeed in relationships, dating and overall confidence in whom they are.
BDD: How would you convince a skeptic to reach out to a coach?
Coaching is not about convincing it is about educating, inspiring and guiding an individual in a productive positive way, with that in mind there is no convincing, it is about a person choosing to move forward and better themselves or staying stuck…the opportunity to succeed is always there.
BDD: Can you give us an example of a success story?
For me as a sex coach working with individuals who have been shamed or felt that they could not get help throughout their lives finding the solutions to feel better and change their negative thinking into positive thinking. One in particular client was about a man that wanted to have better sex with his wife but she was not interested in getting help so we worked on him changing his actions, behavior and the way that he felt about himself. As his confident grew as a man the sex in their marriage got better. I often tell, my clients that when one person changes in a relationship it can change the dynamics of an entire relationship. This also applies to dating or finding that person to date, knowing what you want making a list, and understanding your wants and desires. Confidence is a huge turn on for both a man and a woman.
BDD: Would you ever turn anyone down? Why? Why not?
Anyone who is willing to work on themselves in a positive productive way, I am happy to work with, those who don’t want to work then of course I do not want to waste their time or money.
BDD: What is the most common trouble with which people come to you?
I work with many men who have issues with pre-mature ejaculation an it keeps them from wanting to date and be social. The other issue is confidence and building that up, developing ways to become the person that they want to be. Learning how to love one. So many people don’t like who they are and then they expect others to like them, and that is not going to happen, taking the time to appreciate what is special about them and then sharing it.
BDD: What’s the most valuable piece of advice you can give that applies to all?
Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts
BDD: How soon can we see results of coaching?
There should be results every session even if it is small or big, it is about moving forward.
BDD: What is the number one mistake that you see people make?
Assuming anything, everyone is different and what works for one may not work for another.
BDD: How can I tell I don’t need coaching anymore, I’m doing well by myself?
You will know and then if you need to check in from time to time you can, but you will know when you are ready!
BDD: Does a coach usually have a coach?
We all need coaches in our lives, someone who inspires us teaches us, until the day we die.
BDD: Any books you would recommend?
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff.
BDD: What is the number one goal your clients usually have?
That something that is figured out along the way…sometimes with increased knowledge the goal may change.
BDD: What’s your take on online dating?
I think that online dating is a great way to meet a person; it gives people a chance to get to know someone in a safe atmosphere, with less pressure.