BDD: How did you become a coach? What triggered the decision to devote your life to helping others this way?
I just fell into it really…When I went out and started interacting or playing in a specific area I would always have people asking me to teach them about what they were watching me do. Whether that was attracting and connecting with women, creating and running businesses and getting through my own fears and being successful. So finally I started actually doing it initially coaching as a hobby. I fell in love with the impact I was creating and the differences I was making in the world and decided to take it on full time to make more of an impact.
BDD: What does it take to be a successful coach? Does a coach have a coach?
In two words to lead and to serve. To lead by example. Whatever I am coaching someone in at a fundamental level has to be something that I have done first. For example if I am coaching someone to push through their fears to get to a certain result, I am most powerful as a coach when I have or am doing pushing through my own fears and from that place I can lead them. I don’t, however, need to have achieved the specific result that they are looking for. I constantly am looking for ways to serve everybody I can. Not just people who I believe would make good clients. I am either serving when I can or putting people in touch with people who can serve them, or both. This is my mission.Yes I have a coach who I pay a lot of money to keep me moving in the direction I am going. I believe in what I do enough to have coaching for myself. It is a major reason why I am where I am at today with my practice and my personal growth.
BDD: What aspects of life you like to help with the most? Which cases are the most gratifying for you?
I mainly help people do the big things in their lives that scare the shit out of them. For me that tends to be in the realm of business and relationship and dating. They are all gratifying, but the ones that inspire me the most are the ones that come to me playing a huge game in life. Someone looking to make a massive leap from where they are to where they want to go. People who want to achieve what they and most people consider impossible for them.
BDD: Can you help anyone no matter what the circumstances are?
The ego in me wants to say yes to this, but the reality is probably not.
BDD: Can you talk about a typical coaching experience, what does it involve – meetings in person, phone calls, acting as a wingman?
I have no typical coaching experience. Every client has a unique tailor made structure, focus, and experience. I don’t have anything on the shelf. Sometimes I meet in person, sometimes on the phone or skype, sometimes I will spend the day with a client, sometimes I will travel around the world with clients. It depends on what they are looking for and what I am wanting to create with him.
BDD: How soon can one see the results of coaching?
That depends on the commitment level of the client and what they are wanting to create for themselves. I have seen clients create massive results in 24 hrs after a 2 hour conversation such as one other coach who has never made over $20,000 per year create her first $25,000 client the next day.
BDD: What’s your advice for people who are ready for a total makeover?
To first figure out “why” they want a makeover first. Asking the question of “How to do something” is a great second question but a shitty first question. If you can really get in touch with their “goal behind the goal” then they won’t let challenges and obstacles deter them from getting what they want. The “how to’s” become easy to find out. That’s what a coach should be really good at helping people figure out.
BDD: Does the age matter or can anyone reach out to a coach at any point of life no matter how late or early it is?
It’s funny…When you are playing sports and you want to play at your best you tend to get a coach really young. It’s actually more likely that the better you are at something you tend to have a coach keep you on top of your game and push you further. I believe that anyone at virtually any age can benefit greatly from having a coach. But nobody really “Needs” a coach. Coaching is not a prescription, it’s a jumping off point.
BDD: Did you ever turn anyone down? And if so why?
Yes I turn quite a few people down actually. I turn down and fire clients who aren’t committed and do what they say they are going to. This is imperative to their success and I don’t want to commit 100% to anybody, client or otherwise who isn’t 100% committed to themselves.
BDD: What’s the number one thing that your clients feel they miss in their lives, and you help them to find it?
My clients tend to feel like they are missing the experience of freedom and ease in their lives. I help them find that by leading them through their deepest fears. Through that they realize that they have had everything all along.
BDD: Do you prefer to work with men or women, and why?
No preference here.
BDD: Can you give us an example of a success story?
Sure I have had a client who went from having a almost impossible time getting a date to getting 3 dates and finding a passion for photography that he later turned into a business in 2 hours of coaching.
I have also just recently had a client go from charging $400 a month and thinking I was crazy for charging what I charged to hiring me, paying my fee, and creating his first $25,000 client in under 2 months.
BDD: Thank you, Terrance!