If the person you’re dating asks you to move in with them, you might want to think long and hard before you give an answer. Moving in together is a huge step and not one to take lightly. Sure, the two of you get along now, but what happens when the going gets tough? The following should help you make the right decision to move in or not to move in with the person you’re dating.
Responsibility
Before you move in with the person you’re dating, you should take a look at their own home life. Are they renting or do they own? Are they responsible with money or do they struggle to come up with rent/mortgage each month? These are questions you might want to ask yourself before you go through with any moves.
Cleanliness
How clean is your date? How clean are you? You two should work out chores and how to keep the house clean if you hope for this to work. Nothing will start fights faster than a dirty and unorganized house where you are unable to find anything you’re looking for.
Familiarity
How well do you really know the person you’re considering moving in with? While you may feel comfortable and familiar with the person now, how are you going to feel in three months or three years? Are you sure the person won’t drive you crazy or vice versa? Make sure you really know the person before you decide to cohabitate.
Everyone’s Different
Other people will likely tell you that you’re moving too fast and that you can’t possibly make things work being together for such a short period of time. Then again, everyone’s different. Moving in together at a very early stage might not work for some people, but it might work for you and your date. You might be two of those people that just mesh together well. Only you will be able to answer that.
Trial Run
If you are leaning towards the move and you’re convinced that everything will work out just fine, it’s recommended that you start slowly at first. Go for a trial run that lasts a few weeks or even a few months. Instead of moving in completely, just move enough stuff to last you the duration. Before you hire a moving company and cut off the utilities at one place, just keep things as they are but live together for a little while. At the end of that period, if things are still going great, then moving in together just might work. If you are at each others’ throats constantly and you can’t seem to agree on a thing at the end of the trial, you’ll know that moving in probably isn’t the best move at this time.
Tread carefully and really think about it before you move in with someone you’ve only been dating for a short time. You’ll thank yourself later.